Yesterday at Southbridge Fellowship we wrapped up a 5-week series on marriage entitled: Marriage Matters. In this series we laid a foundation for why marriage matters, talked about the specific roles of a husband and wife, learned God’s plan for sex, saw what to do when marriage is a mess, and wrapped up by talking about the need for Biblical Love. At the conclusion of the last message I shared some wedding vows that I wrote in light of the new things that we have learned together as a church family. Several people asked if they could have a copy so I am posting them here for anyone who may be encouraged or challenged by them:
Traditional Wedding Vows
I, _____, take thee, ______, to be my wedded wife… to have and to hold… for better or for worse… for richer or poorer… in sickness and in health… to love and to cherish… from this day forward… til death do us part.
Marriage Matters Vows:
I, _____, take thee, _____, to be my bride/husband… to love with a sacrificial love. I desire to have our marriage be a picture of Christ’s love for the church. Christ died for His bride, the church. I will daily die for you by being patient when you wrong me. I commit to be kind as I sense and seek to meet your needs. I commit to never being arrogant, or proud, or rude. I commit to celebrate intimacy often as an expression of my love for you. I won’t settle for cheap imitations of love, but will seek God’s call to love. I won’t keep a ledger of our wrongs, and will forgive as God has forgiven me. I commit to love you unconditionally as God has loved me. Sickness will be an opportunity to show the love Christ has shown me. Difficulty and trouble will be an avenue to pour out the love that has been poured into me. I will love you in and through all circumstances, without exception. It will be my joy to invest my life serving you. I will pray for you. I will pray with you. I will seek your good. I will be honest before God and you… from this day forward… til death do us part.
If you would like to hear the entire series, you can find the messages here: Marriage Matters
Part 1: Making Sense of the Mystery
Part 2: How is Marriage Meant to Work?
Part 3: God’s Plan for Sex
Part 4: When Your Marriage is a Mess
Part 5: Love is