Sex (Part 3) Have you asked those you love?

November 3, 2009 0 comments

It is very likely that you or someone you love is involved in trying to experience God’s gift of sex outside of God’s context. One of the ways this is happening in our society is through pornography.

Pornography is a counterfeit of the real thing and it starts off so subtle. It can be on television, movies, soap operas, magazines, and now all over the Internet. The statistics are overwhelming. Perhaps, you have heard it said before that porn makes more money than the NBA, NFL, and Major League baseball combined. That is true. Most people think it does not impact them. “Not my kids.” I read this week that the average age for exposure to porn is 11 years old. We also like to think this is not a problem in the church. That simply is not true.

  • An August 7, 2006 stat says: 50% of all Christian men and 20% of all Christian women are addictedto pornography. 60% of the women who answered the survey admitted to having significant struggles with lust; 40% admitted to being involved in sexual sin in the past year; and 20% of the church-going female participants struggle with looking at pornography on an ongoing basis. From the results of a ChristiaNet poll reported by (emphasis added)

Those are Christians and that is addiction. 5 out of 10 men and 2 out of 10 women in the church are addicted to porn. Some of those people are people you care about. They are trapped in a life of secrecy. If you love them, will you ask them this simple question: “Have you intentionally viewed pornographic material in the last 12 months?” Just the fact that you asked shows them you care. It also provides them with an opportunity to be freed from their prison of secrecy. What if they answer yes? Point them to Jesus who will give them forgiveness and freedom. Ask them if there is anything you can personally do to help free them from this bondage. Set them up with some accountability (that means someone who understands what they are going through and will walk with them through the process of breaking free from this addiction). In some cases you are the best person to walk with them through this. In some cases you will not be.

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